While wedding invitations are important, they aren’t something to go psycho over! Here are some tips for simplifying the process.
Do the math….is DIY really less expensive? Don’t forget to factor in the printing costs, for one color thermography (raised ink) an invitation will run you about $1 each. If you are going to DIY I suggest having the invitation printed and print the accompanying pieces (RSVP, map, and enclosure cards) yourself.
Paper, I always suggest a minimum of 110lb paper weight. Cardstock of this weight will give you a nice thick luxurious feeling, that differentiates the invitation from all your other mail
RSVP, etiquette calls for three weeks, I think a month is fine, but don’t ask for people to respond months ahead of time, many people don’t know what their schedules look like that far in advance.
Types of printing, in order of cost, low to high and in laymen’s terms:
• Digital Offset, flat printing, like what you could do at home…if you have a really nice printer, perfect for RSVP and enclosure cards
• Thermography, the invitation is printed with special ink that is heated to create raised ink (sometimes called embossing) this is cost effective and more luxurious than flat printing
• Letterpress, a plate with your invitation design is inked and then pressed into the paper, leaving an indentation in the paper
• Engraving, the paper is pressed with an inked metal plate from the bottom, creating raised print.
Invitation Etiquette Tips:
• NEVER include any info about where you are registered! It makes it seem like you are asking for gifts. You can put this on your wedding website though.
• Guests should know that only the names printed on the invitation are invited, however….some people just don’t get it. If someone replies with “Plus 1” or “And date” it means they don’t even know who they are going to bring. It is totally acceptable to call them. Here’s what you say “I’m so sorry, but due to budget we are only able to invite couples in committed relationships” if budget isn’t an issue (and that will be obvious when they see the wedding) say “We are having an intimate wedding and don’t have the room for additional guests” I say, committed couples only (no one wants to go to a wedding without their significant other, even if you haven’t met them personally) but you also shouldn’t have to pay for a random hookup.
• You have every right to have an adult only wedding, but some people do get upset about their children not being invited. The most important thing is to not make exceptions; you can’t allow your best friend’s child but not allow your cousins. Again, guests should infer that their kids are not invited based on the names on the invitation, but if you feel like you want to make it explicit, I think the most acceptable way is by writing “Due to the nature of the event we request this is an adult only affair” on the RSVP card (never on the invitation)